FLR- Family, Love and Relationship

 FLR

By; Chris N. Braza

Do you know a family that profoundly exhibit harmony and happiness? Or should I say, how's your own family? Is love always the atmosphere inside the home? Relationship with each members of the family intact? Tough questions. Very lucky few, can say they have an ideal one.

In this article, we will navigate some important factors that could fix the hole inside our home. Remember, parents are responsible to take care of the house. Husbands and wives should model what they exactly expecting from their children. Your children just mirror on us as significant adult. Walk the talk is irreplaceable affirmative of good values we want to implant with them. Sound compromising and yet compelling idea if we really want your kids grasp the message. We cannot expect them to follow the rules, if in the first place we are the violators. Family values hold the future if the nation. It very difficult to clean the mess at later part of person's life. Thus, discipline starts at early stage of a kids. Like an old adage says, " Bent the bamboo while still young." Why? It's hard to learn a new tricks for an old dog. Not to make an offense, well we are human created in God's image we have hope to be conformed for what is commendable.

Here are some powerful guidelines to consider in rebuilding the family. Reignite the love inside and restore harmony in a relationship.

First, treat your family as friends. We enjoy mutual respect. And sometimes we share our crazy things with someone we called as best friends. It's seems that the sun is always bright when  a group of friends are in each other company. They laugh and cried as well. There's nothing to feel uncomfortable. Occasionally, three's no sense of formality. We just let the river flows. In another word, you can be yourself in  one friend's presence. Can we feel the same with our family? Or we are too conscious most of the time how we carry ourselves to get approval? Teenage kids frequently complain they feel unrest at home; consequently, they find the missing piece outside.

Secondly, family should always care and always there. Working both parents in one home  causes colossal damage in emotional need of every child. Children became emotionally and socially detached from either parties. They need quality time spent together regularly. Nature of our work or job and demand of our duty in our profession can never be satisfied their longing no matter how good you explained. We are in quarter century already serving kids and parents as preschool operator and we heard a lots of different stories to relate this matter. It's excruciating for a parent hearing grudges from their beloved child. What is the issue? "I'm alone, during those time I needed you most"-that's really true.

Thirdly, give time to listen and gain their trust. We have one mouth and two ears. Meaning, give ample time hearing the voice of others than manipulating them by your indominable talking. People love to hear. Unfortunately, children are hampered to involve in adult conversation. Whereas, one of the lesson from a poem in preschool is "Join Me or Involve Me". Where to involve them? Simply in your planning, talk with them. Ask their opinion and what they like or interested in. Don't let them feel less important. For example, you're thinking to have dinner out, you may consult the kids where they want to go. Let them express themselves and not suppress their freedom. In doing so , we can gain trust. I might also say, we can garner more friends from listening than talking instead.

Lastly, learn the language of saying "I'm sorry." Being parents or an adult did not dictates of always being right. It does not our guaranty to keep the ball rolling. Broken heart can never be healed by time alone. However, an apology is not a thing to demand from the offender but it should be voluntarily initiated of a person who committed the mistakes.  We need to say sorry sincerely in any occasion we recognized that it is in our part to claim the blame. Besides, saying it's my fault and feel sorry was enough. Any additional words of explanation lessen the truthfulness of our good intention. It is somewhat you justify your action and not you really mean your act of humility. 

Final thoughts

Family firmness depends on the way how we manage it as a little kingdom. Since family is the small unit of our society that builds the community and creates the nation at large. We are mandated to foster family harmony and fix the fracture properly and tenderly. Let every house a home.

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